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How to Disciple a new Christian: NewStart Day 24

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Here’s the transcript from day 24 of the NewStart Discipleship Program:


New Start Discipleship Day 24


Hey there, welcome back to New Start Discipleship. Today is Day 24 and we are in I John 4. This is an amazing, amazing part of the scripture and we're kind of zooming in on it today because John's one of his big themes is Love. John is called the beloved disciple, the one that Jesus loves, you see in the Gospel of John if you read that, you see him referencing the disciple whom Jesus loved and that's a great, great thing that's John, that's this guy.

And so, he is kind of letting us in on seeing his philosophy, how God is love and therefore we ought to love one another. And so, as part of the core nature of God, he introduces it to us he says;

“Dear friends, let us love one another. For love is from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God whoever does not love does not know

God because God is love”

If you don't have love, you don't know God and if you do have love and you truly love, you’re committed to the best interest of your neighbor, you can do know God. Now, let me just tell you a couple of things. First of all, love's not a feeling, okay? That's a common misconception that people have in our culture today. They believe that love is a feeling that you have about someone. And it's really isn't. Love is an unselfish commitment to the best interest of the other person. It often goes along with feelings; it's often surrounded by feelings, and it kind of gets tangled up in them sometimes but at its core it isn't a feeling it's a commitment to the best interest of the other person.

So, loving somebody doesn't mean I feel happy about them or I feel like they complete me or whatever else. It means that I am committed to what is best for them no matter what and that's a beautiful idea. So, Jesus didn't have warm fuzzy feelings about you while he was on the cross but he loved you while he was on the cross. He was committed to your best interest even when it hurt him at that time. Now, love is not a feeling and that's an important thing that you need to understand. What that means is, that sometimes there are Christian, the reason why that's important is because sometimes there are Christians it's hard to love or people it's hard to love. In the sense that you don't feel good about them, right? They did something wrong to you and you don't feel good about them and that's okay. God didn't ask you to have warm fuzzy feelings about everybody in the world okay?

Instead he asked for you to be committed to their best interest. And so, their best interest is not always what they want to happen, right? It's not always in the best interest of that person for you to give them money. And to give them all the you know as much leashes they want, you know it's not always in their best interest sometimes the best thing that could happen to somebody is that they get saved and change their behavior, right?

So, commitment to that person's best interest doesn't always look like giving them whatever they want, that's a second thing that that sometimes people think love means well it just means I've got to lay down and be a doormat, no not necessarily. That's not necessarily what love is, alright? So, now I want to i want to point out something down a little bit further in the passage, alright? Let's see if I can find it, okay? There is, verse 18

“There is no fear in love but perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love”

We fear God, right? We said that the scripture says;

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom”

But the word fear is not like cringing sort of feel like, oh he might do me wrong, he might hurt me, he might…, it's not that kind of thing. It's a holy respect all in in a fear of getting on the bad side of someone because you have how much you respect and love and care about them.

So, the kind of cringing I'm afraid of God sort of attitude that some Christians and sometimes some new Christians might have, is not a healthy thing. And I want to tell you, if you love God with all of your heart and you understand how much he loves you; it drives out fear and the perfection, the completing of the love of God in your heart.

So, when it grows, when that love that had God has begun and you grow to its completeness. It pushes out fear and you live, love him with a relaxed gladness in him. All right now there'll be more to be said about all that. God bless you. See you tomorrow


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Darrell Stetler II serves as a pastor at the Bible Methodist Church in Southwest Oklahoma City. He says, “I create discipleship tools for small church pastors, to make them feel as though they have a discipleship pastor on staff!” He can be tempted by Krispy Kreme donuts and a cold glass of milk. :)


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